My Child was Just Diagnosed and I’m Lost.

My Child was Just Diagnosed and I’m Lost.

A Disability? A Condition? A Disease? This Can’t Be Happening. Now what? 

No matter what, this is so very hard to hear whether you are expecting it or not. I am not sure exactly why, it just is.  Even though you were warned and there were signs, for some reason, when a doctor says to you, “Your son/daughter has this life changing THING, it's hard!

A lot of emotions and questions start flooding your brain.  At the same time, you also have to listen to all of this NEW information while simultaneously  taking care of your tiny, amazing human. A lot of the emotions are tied to fear...the unknown...the “what if's”.  How am I going to do this? Can I even do this and what if I can't? 

For me, I went straight to I CAN'T, no inbetween.

I am already so tired and overwhelmed. I am already struggling. How am I supposed to do this now, too!? I simply can't! 

Then, when you feel like all hope is lost, someone in your tribe tells you that you do not have a choice so, yes, you can and you WILL!

So you dry your eyes, go grab your amazing little human and start your crazy journey together. 

I won't tell you it will be easy; at times it will be hard, but worth it.

I won't tell you people won't question you along the way; at times they will but you will find your path or create a new one.

I won't tell you that you will know everything; at times you will be uncertain, but you will grow stronger and learn more each day. 

I won't tell you that I know exactly what you're going through; at times you will find others who have similar experiences and when you’re ready, their advice may help you. You aren't alone, I will tell you that!

I won't tell you that there is a reason; at times you may want one or think that there must be one, but there might not be one and it's okay to be sad that there isn’t one. 

I won't tell you to be amazing all the time; at times you might  feel like you are not doing enough, that YOU are not enough, but I will tell you to forgive yourself when you are unable to show up in the way you wanted to. 

I WILL tell you that it will be okay. That it will get better and one day you will look at that tiny human and be SO amazed at just how far you have come. 

How far your tiny human has come and how far YOU have come. 

So, if you can. take a deep breath. If you can't, that's okay. Keep trying. Don’t give up. One breath at a time, one step at a time.

And remember, you are not alone. If you would like support along your journey, please reach out. I am here to help you. 💗